Agreed that being a parent is not an easy job, but why do we always have to make a big deal of it. We fuss so much over our kids and create a whole drama of being a well-wisher of the child so that he becomes extraordinarily fantastic. We want our child to be good at everything – academics, sports, dance, music, art, and whatever that we can think of.
We keep telling our kids that we are shouting at them because we don’t want others to point fingers at them. 🙂 We keep giving lectures to them because we want them to become good human beings. Just because we are parents and the little beings have come into our lives, does it give us the authority to become Hitlers? Well, don’t think that I am standing on some high elevation and writing this blog. I am also a typical parent, whose day starts and ends with being a correctional warden, a monstrous task-master, and sometimes a loving mother. 🙂
As a mother, I have so many expectations from my child. While some of them are realistic, some are really not practical and are completely unreasonable.
- I want my kids to speak the truth and nothing but the truth: Well, if you give them cold stares when they don’t finish their lunches and give them a lecture on how expensive the vegetables are, they will surely want to lie to you, by either throwing the food in the dustbin or feeding it to some dog.. 😀
- The kid should not be rebellious: I really get irked up when my daughter rebels and argues with me. I also keep telling her that I was never like her when I was a child. But, come to think of it, we don’t want our kids to grow up and become subservient, do we? There are times when the kids really need to stand up against injustices. If parents had their way, kids would only be glued to their books and score high marks, as if nothing else was more important in life. 🙂
- We want our child to always be cheerful and happy: Why does my child keep sulking and why can’t she have a pleasant smile on her face? Hey, our kids are not mannequins to always have a plastic smile on their faces. They have to undergo a lot of stress and can have bad days too. The least that we can do is to try and cheer them up or lend them our shoulders to cry on.
- Why doesn’t our child win any prizes? We attend the annual day functions and wonder when our child would be on the receiving end of the coveted prizes. :-D. Am not sure how many of my readers have brainy children, but am sure most of them, including me, wish our kids too could win some prize one day and make us proud. Well, this is for all those parents and for me too. Our kids are really good as they are. They need not win prizes to become successful in life. I was a school topper but look at what I am doing, writing blogs, hoping that someone would read them… 😉
- Get good reviews at PTM: We really wish that the teachers only gave good reviews in the parent teacher meeting. And, if we hear even one complaint, we really want to give a tongue-lashing to the child. Hey, looks like we are suffering from Dementia. Do you think we were a totally obedient, studious and a polite lot in our school days? Come on, it is the teachers who need to change their mind-set. As long as our children are not causing any harm to the other kids and are only behaving as kids, it is no big deal.. :-D. If my daughter’s teacher does not have anything else to complain about, she cribs about my daughter having too many friends. Never thought that being friendly was a sin too.. :-). So, just chill.
Don’t suffer from memory lapses. Don’t forget that you were once a child too and would have done something similar in your childhood. You cannot expect your child to be perfect in everything. Let him be a child and let him learn from his mistakes. You can only help in grooming him but you would be doing a great deal of service by letting him be him, without putting too much pressure on him. Support your child, motivate your child and show that you are there for him, when he requires you. 🙂